How my clients Tina & Giorgio explored relaxed love making Last weekend my clients Tina and Giorgio, both in their 50s, created space to explore what I call ‘relaxed love making’. With a combination of the sessions we have been doing together moving their focus...
Sexual desire is viewed through a very narrow and limited lens. If you aren’t ‘horny’, ‘in the mood’ or experience desire regularly, many women I work with feel that there is something wrong with them. There is not. Sexual desire is so much more nuanced than this. Let...
There has been a huge growth especially in the last 5 years of sexuality teachers, coaches, courses and workshops etc which is of course wonderful. When I started exploring this work nearly twenty years ago there was very little available and you really had to...
“This is for me” is a phrase I learnt from Betty Martin’s wonderful work the wheel of consent and it’s a powerhouse of a phrase. Many of the women that I work with are so used to intimate pleasure being all about the other person. This is also true of some of...
Over the last 20 years I have listened to many many people talk about their sex lives. It’s an honour and a privilege every single time as people share with me things they have often never talked about before and over the years I’ve heard people talk a lot about how...
“This course showed me what I can do when I focus on myself.” Ju, 43 When I got the feedback for the last group programme I ran for women, the most consistent piece of feedback from the 20 participants was that they learnt how to put themselves first. It...
Susan came to the course feeling shut off from her sexual energy, and as she described ‘hopeless’ about her future. This course was her final attempt to see if change was possible and as she shared, her life has completely changed, more than she ever thought...
It is okay to not like the word ‘pussy’. It doesn’t make you any less of a sexual being. You can be an empowered sexual, sensual woman and never use the word ‘pussy’. In recent years there has been a wave of women reclaiming the word ‘pussy’. I know women and...
Kate thought her sexuality had disappeared. Two children had left her feeling like her body wasn’t hers. Years of breastfeeding and children wanting lots of physical touch and attention, by the end of the day all she wanted was some time on her own. She saw my...
To change how you experience, pleasure, sex and intimacy takes practice, practice practice. When you approach sex with a goal in mind, usually a goal of heading towards some type of penetration and a climax, it’s like putting the same coordinates in the sat nav...