This is a revelation for many people that I work with. The women I work with often grow up to believe that their sexual energy is for other people and usually that means it’s for men - whether lovers or partners. This run so deep in our world. Just look at marketing...
Learning about sex in the hotch pot way that I did, I thought that I was meant to look sexy, act sexy, and that sex had to get faster faster and more intense as our bodies tensed before my partner and I exploded into orgasm, ideally at the same time. That became a...
I was raised to be the typical good girl, not just with my parents but with school, family and any ‘authority’. I heard familiar phrases like ‘Saying ‘I want’ gets nothing’, ‘so-and-so‘s children don’t ask all the time for things they want’, ‘nothing in life...
Marion, 42, had been single for a while. She had a number of relationships when she was younger and couldn’t figure out why they didn’t work. When opportunities came along and someone wanted to get closer to her she ‘contracted’. She shared: “I never take them...
My clients think that they are the problem, that there is something ‘wrong’ with them. They think they are somehow ‘broken’ or they are a ‘failure’ at sex. It aches my heart knowing how many people in the world feel this way about themselves when I know 100%...
Anthi, in her mid-40s, reached out to me as intimacy with her long term partner had pretty much stopped. She found sex ‘scary and disgusting’. She grew up being told that sex was dirty, only men want it and women do it for the men. Over the years, sex was often when...
“The women who shared stories of loving sex or of having profound sexual experiences reminded me at times of careful cartographers. They were not inventing new lands so much as mapping the full extent of existing territory. “ Katherine Rowland, ‘The Pleasure Gap’ I...
(Estimated reading time : 15 minutes) Sex, Love and Goop, a recent series on Netflix has caused quite a stir. I for one am really delighted to see this show. It is a tender and intimate portrayal of the courageous couples who bared all on Netflix. The show...
Intimate Sexuality is a fresh way to talk about and experience sex and intimacy in a world where much of the sex experienced is devoid of real intimacy, performed rather than felt, restricted rather than a space of possibility. It is a way to elevate sex and intimacy...