Intimate Sexuality is a fresh way to talk about and experience sex and intimacy in a world where much of the sex experienced is devoid of real intimacy, performed rather than felt, restricted rather than a space of possibility. It is a way to elevate sex and intimacy beyond the goal based model of sex to delicious pleasure and deep intimacy.
Sex, focused on the goals of penetration and orgasm is the way most people learn to ‘do sex’ and it is this that creates many of the challenges that I see daily with my clients. They commonly describe their sex life with words like ‘boring’, ‘routine’, ‘functional’ or ‘non existent’ with little or no pleasure and often a sense of pressure or stress and they wonder if there is something ‘wrong’ with them. Often they know what they don’t want but they don’t know what they do want or how to change it. Sound familiar? I know this place well as this was my experience of sex for many years.
The wonderful Peggy Kleinplatz shares, don’t be hard on your self for not wanting sex or wanting it less than you feel you should, instead re-envision the kind of sex that is truly worth wanting in the first place.
Intimate Sexuality provides the map and the foundational tools and practices to transform sex and intimacy beyond the goal based model to sex that is worth wanting. This is the recipe and the ingredients for you to experiment with and explore, adding your unique flavours to cook up your best sex life, a truly intimate sex life.
THE INTIMATE SEXUALITY PRINCIPLES
This is an overview of the foundational principles of Intimate Sexuality, highlighting the pivotal differences between Intimate Sexuality and goal based sex.
Applying the ten principles shared in the table above can change everything – each one is a practice in its own right. It can take time to unlearn what you have been doing automatically for years for example, chasing the pleasure as it rises or tensing your body however it is a journey that is so worth it!
Take just one of these principles and experiment with it. The most powerful is focusing on the pleasure and enjoying each moment rather than rushing or pushing towards the goal of orgasms and penetration. Let me know how you find this and I’ll be sharing some practical tips on how you can do this soon.The Intimate Sexuality principles are relevant whether you are single, dating or in relationship, whatever relationship model you choose and for all genders.
As one of my clients said, I ‘illuminate possibilities’ that they didn’t know existed. Possibilities that allow for pleasure and playfulness, passion and sensuality, presence and relaxation, heartfelt communication and deep connection, discovery and exploration.
The beauty of the Intimate Sexuality principles is that these are also practices for life. We live in a world that for many is full of worry and lacking in pleasure. The Intimate Sexuality practices are a gateway to more presence, relaxation, pleasure and connection throughout your life. I have seen this happen so many times.
Intimate Sexuality is foundational in my 1-1 programmes. The programmes are have four cornerstones; Feng Shui Your Sex Life, Awaken Your Pleasure Body; Express Yourself and Intimate Relating. Each area is rich with the key elements that I have seen time and time again make a difference in my clients sex lives and my own. They are simple and practical yet rich and profound. I’ll be sharing more about these soon.
Does this resonate with you?
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To find out how Intimate Sexuality can transform your sex life, take a look at my coaching programmes. There is my 1-1 sexual empowerment coaching programme for women or Ignite Your Pleasure, my private coaching programme for couples. You can book a free consultation call with me here.
With love,
Sarah xxx
