It is okay to not like the word ‘pussy’. It doesn’t make you any less of a sexual being. You can be an empowered sexual, sensual woman and never use the word ‘pussy’.
In recent years there has been a wave of women reclaiming the word ‘pussy’. I know women and have clients who love using the word ‘pussy’ and feel powerful in doing so.
What I want to highlight is a theme I am seeing amongst the women I work with. I know that if a number of my clients are sharing this, there will be many other women feeling the same way.
Many women I speak with don’t like the word ‘pussy’ and they don’t want to use it as a name for their genitals. Some have tried to like it. Some have experimented with it. They wonder if there is something wrong with them as they don’t like it! I hear comments like ‘maybe I am a prude but I don’t think I am’ or they imagine that to be a sexually liberated woman they ‘should’ love the word pussy.
What’s important is to find a word for your genitals that feels true for you. A word that connects you to your erotic power when you say it. A word that feels good when you voice it. A word that feels good when you hear it.
If you don’t have a word that feels good to you, I invite you to find one. When you don’t have a name for your genitals that you feel comfortable with, it’s so easy for this precious part of your body to remain invisible. Without a name you feel good about, you are less likely to ask or speak about anything related to your genitals, whether with your partner or lovers or medical professionals.
I have been exploring this world for 20 years and there is still not one name that I fully love. I know some women don’t like the word vagina due to the etymology of the word. The original Latin use of the word, “vagina” was a sheath for a sword and the penis was often referred to as the sword in question.
I am good with the words vulva and vagina and I think its important to be able to speak about our body parts with these most common words (and the one thing I love about the word vagina is that it rhymes with the word finer so you can say ’there is nothing finer than my vagina’ – always makes me smile!!)
I also like the Sanskrit word ‘yoni’ with interpretations such as ‘sacred space’ and ‘the source’. What I love about this word that is includes both the vulva and the vagina and brings in the sacredness, honouring and reverence which is missing in all the other words.
What’s your take on this? I’d love to hear.
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