Today I’m delighted to share this powerful conversation with Christiane Pelmas. I see Christiane as a wise woman and elder and she works as a mentor and guide with women and women’s communities. I deeply value Christiane’s grounded wisdom and the medicine she brings. We covered so much rich territory and I could have gone on for hours! Christiane shares her story of ‘eldering’ and how life in her 50s keeps getting better, reframing orgasm as a ‘threshold’ rather than a full stop, self pleasure as a place to alchemise feelings and emotions, the difference between ‘sexual’ and ‘erotic’, the story of Eros, what women’s community needs to thrive (this one surprised me!), what ‘feminine leadership’ is, how to thrive in the ‘tension’ of current times, listening to how you can meaningfully participate in life at this time and the complexity of the nervous system in consent and why statements like “even a ‘maybe’ is a ‘no’!” don’t work. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.
Christiane shares:
- Her story of ‘eldering’ and how her life is changing in her 50s
- Reframing orgasm as a ‘threshold’ rather than a full stop
- A glimpse of the space beyond the ‘threshold’ and ways to explore this space
- Decolonising orgasm – reclaiming your pleasure
- Self pleasure as a place to alchemise feelings and emotions and experience wellness
- The difference between ‘sexual’ and ‘erotic’ and why its important not to conflate them
- The story of Eros
- What Eros is
- The difference between life force and Eros
- What women’s community needs to thrive – this one surprised me!
- How ‘conflict’ can be generative
- Redefining leadership
- What ‘feminine leadership’ is
- How to thrive in the ‘tension’ of current times
- Listening to how you can meaningfully participate in life at this time
- The complexity of the nervous system in consent and why statements like “even a ‘maybe’ is a ‘no’!” don’t work
- How women become more invisible at menopause and the liberation Christiane found from this
- Being in the mystery of menopause
Christiane is a former therapist now a mentor/guide/supervisor and ancestral healing practitioner, specifically working with women, tending to women’s community, working at the intersection of erotic intelligence, female embodiment, trauma, and leadership in a time of ecological and societal collapse. She is mother to two wonderful young men, a partner, an avid gardener, and writer.
RESOURCES FROM CHRISTIANE
Website – www.christianepelmas.com
Christiane is offering two courses this Fall:
“Weaving In The Dark, an online course for women leaders”
Weaving In The Dark: https://www.onewoman.org/weaving-in-the-dark
“Reweaving Women’s Community” also an online course teaching women how to start and sustain vibrant women’s groups and community.
Reweaving Women’s Community: https://www.onewoman.org/reweaving-online-womens-groups
RESOURCES FROM SARAH
Sign up to Sarah’s newsletter so you can find out about the latest podcast episode and get pleasure mapping, a guided audio practice
https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/guided-pleasure-mapping/
Book a free consultation with Sarah https://calendly.com/sarahrosebright
Ignite Your Sexuality, a 10 module self study course for women
https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/an-online-course-for-women/
Find Sarah online
Website www.sarahrosebright.com
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosebright/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sarahrosebrightsexcoach
Youtube http://youtube.com/c/sarahrosebright
Spotify for some playlists https://open.spotify.com/user/dog9xui4wwpjatvbnpb2t7l3y?si=jnc_V6wxSCqaqr3UhNgD6Q
ABOUT YOUR HOST
Your podcast host is Sarah Rose Bright. Sarah is a Sex and Intimacy Coach who helps women and couples to truly enjoy sex and pleasure and create/deepen intimate relationships.
