Myself and my partner Sarah, endeavour to put half a day aside for sexual intimacy regularly. This is amazing because I look back into my early 40s, and I, like many men thought I’d lost most of my libido completely. I’d strayed away from my Taoists sexual...
There are so many couples I have worked with who share with me that they thought they wanted more sex and they realised that what was really missing, was intimacy. There is a very common dynamic. Early on in the relationship, sex starts off great and then for a...
Whenever I hear client stories, whether my private couples, or the ones in our INTIMACY course, I see how so many of the challenges they are experiencing are down to the massive lack of quality information and education about sex and relationships. We learn a...
I am noticing the emergence of a new conversation about sex and one that I really welcome. One of the things I love about it is that it’s not about Tantra, or technique or toys. It’s what you might have heard of as slow sex (Slow Sex is also the title of Diana...
I love working with couples. In a recent session with one of my couples clients, we started exploring what it is that they really want. The woman said she didn’t know what she wanted. I guided the couple to play a really simple yet deeply profound game from the Wheel...
One of the biggest and most damaging myths about relationships is that they should happen naturally and effortlessly, and if they don’t, then something is potentially wrong with you, your partner or your relationship. So many couples have shared this fear with me over...
They know it’s out there, they just don’t know how to make it happen which is why some couples have booked onto our course, INTIMACY. They know about hot sex and it’s just not working anymore. Hot sex Adrenalised sex Sex in sympathetic nervous system ...
“This is for me” is a phrase I learnt from Betty Martin’s wonderful work the wheel of consent and it’s a powerhouse of a phrase. Many of the women that I work with are so used to intimate pleasure being all about the other person. This is also true of some of...
Over the last 20 years I have listened to many many people talk about their sex lives. It’s an honour and a privilege every single time as people share with me things they have often never talked about before and over the years I’ve heard people talk a lot about how...
Susan came to the course feeling shut off from her sexual energy, and as she described ‘hopeless’ about her future. This course was her final attempt to see if change was possible and as she shared, her life has completely changed, more than she ever thought...